I had already revealed to him in June that I had my first affair in April, my second affair in May but did not tell him about my third in June. After I got saved on October 2, 2014 I prayed this prayer to God: "Lord, I know I have to tell my husband about the third affair, but I don't know how. I have already caused him so much pain and suffering, I can't do this alone. The only way I can tell him is if he asks. If you present an opportunity for him to ask me, I will tell him." And sure enough, that is exactly what happened.
My husband and I were working on a commercial building that we were remodeling on New Year's Eve night December 31, 2014. Since I got saved Oct. 2nd, he had never asked if I had another affair partner or if there was anything I needed to tell him that I hadn't told him yet. So I knew when he asked that painful question that night, I knew it had to be God.
I feel God had two things He wanted to accomplish by me waiting to tell my husband:
1. God knew that in order for our marriage to stay together, my husband was going to have to see the changes in my life that resulted from giving my life to God. He knew that if my husband would have asked immediately after I got saved, he would not have believed that I had truly gotten saved and he would have left me. My husband needed to see the three months of my changed life I was living and the fruits I was already producing.
2. Because my husband asked me on the last day of 2014, that made the way to tell him everything that had happened in that year. That way we could start a fresh new year in 2015 with a clean slate. We left it all in 2014.
The MOST difficult things you have to do in your life are also the most freeing things to do. I did not want to tell my husband, but I could no longer live with the secrets anymore. I was living a double-life before getting saved. Even though I knew the consequences of my sins were going to be Hell on Earth, I knew the freedom Christ gave me was worth everything I was about to endure.
Three and a half years after revealing my first affairs, we still have some issues today. That is the result of sin. We are slowly building trust back, our marriage has flourished, God has blessed us IMMENSELY, God is using our mess for His message, and I would not change anything for the life of freedom and joy I now live.
So if there is something you need to leave in 2017, I highly encourage you to take that step of courage with God, He WILL see you through. Ask God to search your heart and reveal anything that needs to be brought into the light. Satan will lie to you and tell you to keep it a secret and not to tell anyone. But don't listen to those lies - you must drag your secrets into the light in order to start the healing process.