My husband and I minister to couples and teach a class at church about the pitfalls of marriage that we have experienced and how to avoid them. We are asked the question all the time, "How in the world did you get through these affairs?" Our answer to them is, "GOD!" He is THE ONLY reason my husband and I are still married today. God is our comforter, He has all the answers that we were looking for on what to do in the most traumatic event of our lives. We turned to scripture, we watched sermons, we read books, we stayed in constant prayer and while we had done all of that, we BOTH gave it 150% in trying to make it work. If one spouse is giving it 150% and the other is only giving 50%, it will not work. Surviving an affair takes more work than a person could ever imagine; funny how the devil doesn't tell you that when you enter the affair. Not only will you need to eventually gain trust for the person who had the affair, but the person who had the affair is now under constant watch and questioning for a very long time. It is a very exhausting, emotionally-draining process. Though we have come a LONG way in two years since it has happened, we still have daily struggles every day. That is why most marriages end up in divorce after infidelity because the couple just can't work through it.
Though the struggles we have faced from this traumatic event are very exhausting, God has restored our marriage and family and made it stronger than ever before. My husband looks at life differently now, we are more involved with our children, God is the head of our household, we are very involved with our church, we appreciate the small things in life. Through this event, I also found salvation and a relationship with our living God that I had never known existed, Praise God! It is tough because what we had gone through was the most difficult thing that had ever happened to us, but at the same time, it has been the greatest thing that has happened in my life. I am a completely different person than who I was before. I wouldn't trade my salvation experience for anything else in the world. The next time you are going through the most difficult situation in your life, remember there is only one person who can help you through - God. Please don't go through this journey alone.