It's taken me dozens of years to realize, maybe it's not me. Maybe it's the resolutions.
Resolutions are All or Nothing You don't get credit unless you've done the whole thing. You said you wanted to lose twenty pounds, and only lost seven? In resolution-world, that's a big old failure. You said you would exercise five times a week, and you only are getting to the gym twice a week. Well, why go at all?
When your goals are all or nothing, 99.9% of the time, they will be nothing.
As humans, we need to see our progress and we need encouragement along the way.
When it Comes to Resolutions, Turns Out That SMART Goals for Life Change Aren't That SMART We've all heard about SMART goals. That our goals should be:
Peter Bregman, writing in the Harvard Business Review Blog Network, argues "When we set goals, we’re taught to make them specific and measurable and time-bound. But it turns out that those characteristics are precisely the reasons goals can backfire. A specific, measurable, time-bound goal drives behavior that’s narrowly focused and often leads to either cheating or myopia. Yes, we often reach the goal, but at what cost?"
So If Resolutions are Not the Answer, What Is? Bergman says that instead of goals, we should be focused on areas of change. "An area of focus taps into your intrinsic motivation. It offers no stimulus or incentive to cheat or take unnecessary risks, leaves every positive possibility and opportunity open, and encourages collaboration while reducing corrosive competition. All this while moving forward on the things you and your organization value most."
Instead of resolutions, maybe you can create a personal manifesto.
A personal manifesto is a statement of your core values and beliefs, what is important to you, and how you plan to live your life. It is written in the present tense, even if not everything you state is one hundred percent true about you today, it is a declaration of what you are working to become.
So instead of a resolution that says, "I will lose twenty pounds this year," my manifesto states, "I cannot buy good health. I must earn it. Daily." Instead of short-term goals, I'm looking for lifetime growth.
Personal Manifesto I sat down and wrote my manifesto in about an hour. (As an author and speaker, I spend a lot of time mulling such things over in my day-to-day life already. So when it came time to put it down on paper, it was pretty easy for me.) But others can get stuck in the creation of such a personal document.
I can think of dozens of reasons to create your own personal manifesto, but let me give you my top three:
- There is no "Breaking" a Personal Manifesto
2. Your Get to Dream (and Pray) Bigger With a Personal Manifesto Resolutions are all about temporary changes. Lose weight, eat healthy, quit a bad habit. But a Personal Manifesto enables you to not just focus on the behavior, but on the person you are becoming, and who God wants you to be. Plus, you get to include others in your dreams, plans, and prayers.
In resolutions, you only get to set goals for yourself. In my Personal Manifesto, one line says, "I help others be world-changers." To me, that's a powerful reason to get out of bed and do life every day.
3. Your To-Dos are Born Out of Your Personal Manifesto Don't think that with the Personal Manifesto you will walk aimlessly through life with no goals. Oh no. your goals, daily to-dos, and even your routines are all born out of your Personal Manifesto. In fact, you will be more focused with a Personal Manifesto than with resolutions, but the focus will not be born out of your self-will, it will spring from your heart.